The ADHD guide to friends & staying connected

Struggle to keep up with friends because of ADHD? Us too! That's why we created this guide. Enter your email to learn why it happens, get simple connection hacks, and use the Friendship Rolodex template with ready-to-send messages to reconnect without guilt.

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The ADHD guide to friends & staying connected

If you’ve ever gone way too long without replying to a text and now feel too awkward to reach out… welcome to the club. 🙃

ADHD “ghosting” usually isn’t intentional. It can happen because of challenges with several different ADHD symptoms, including working memory, time blindness, rejection sensitivity, task initiation, and ADHD paralysis.

The good news? It’s rarely too late to reach out. Most people aren’t angry, they just assume you got busy.

In this guide, we’ll cover the ADHD symptoms that make keeping in touch with friends and loved ones a challenge for ADHDers. We’ve also got some great tips, a handy friendship rolodex template, and even some sample scripts to help you reestablish contact when you’re not sure what to say. Even with ADHD, you can absolutely maintain friendships without the guilt.

Shimmer members are enjoying more focused and confident lives

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“It took me many months to decide to sign up for Shimmer; Once I began utilizing the education modules, creating SMART goals and actions, doing body doubling sessions and working with my awesome coach, I noticed a gradual and consistent improvement in so many areas of my life. I can’t believe it, quite honestly. Has this been the thing that’s been missing my whole life? YES: yes it has. "

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“Having someone who understands what I'm going through and can give feedback has been so helpful. Since starting Shimmer, I've been able to better manage emotional dysregulation (my frustrations don't last as long anymore... only as long as I let it), learn to express my boundaries better, and treat myself with more compassion.

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“It’s not an exaggeration when I say that Shimmer has changed my life. The founders of Shimmer really understand ADHD and have amazingly created a platform that absolutely works."

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“I can already feel the difference Michele’s coaching is making in my daily life, and my goals feel more achievable with her advice and guidance. I can already feel the difference Shimmer is making in my daily life”

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Why we built Shimmer

The way we approach ADHD is broken

For too long, support systems were built to normalize and hide, not empower neurodivergent folks. They expected us to fit into neurotypical molds instead of rethinking the molds themselves. No wonder so many of us end up stuck in the same cycles of shame and burnout.

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At Shimmer, we believe ADHD brains don’t need to be fixed—they need better design. That’s why we built a platform that combines expert coaching, real community, and ADHD-friendly tools you can actually use.

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We’re rewriting the playbook.

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The ADHD guide to friends & staying connected

Shimmer members are enjoying more focused and confident lives

The way we approach ADHD is broken

You deserve to shimmer.